"but he doesn’t want to be the kind of 30-something perv who dates people in their twenties."Īh, I see, the current infantilizing moral panic that positions 20-something adults as incapable of making informed decisions about their sex lives is inflecting this. Once I hit my thirties, I received a rapidly INCREASING amount of romantic attention from women in both their 20s and 30s, and midway through my fourth decade, I'm a year into my current relationship, and it's going well. Granted, I live in a major city with several universities, while "college town" here might refer to a smaller town centered mostly on a college/university, but it has been my experience that dating became much easier in my thirties as compared to my twenties. Huh, that hasn't been my experience at all. sig or something I'm getting exhausted by how many times I've said the same thing.)įor a success story, read "He Cared About Me, So I Broke Up With Him" at įRIED: "Even without the trans part, it’s not easy to be a 30-something single man in a liberal college town." (I should put this answer to FAILURE in my. (For just one example, some people seek damaged people out of fear that they'd be less likely to leave a therapist specializing in self esteem might help such a person.) There are many reasons people accept or even seek dysfunctional relationship patterns. You should also seek therapy yourself, to get over what caused you to put up with this for a year. (Do not think it will help with you, both because one should never expect anyone else to change, and because the relationship roles you two have established with each other are like wagon wheel ruts it would be close to impossible to break out of.) For the sake of him having healthy relationships with others in the the future.
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Here's what I posted there hours the number 13"įFS, that sounds like a Freudian slip, since the well-known 'rule' is plus 7 (not dumping your extremely unhealthy BF, you might do him a favor and suggest he get help, perhaps by doing vast amounts of work in therapy. Er, wow, I just realized that has given up on Disqus this week! (Yes, embarrassingly, I posted without thinking.) I like this format better, so I'll suggest we all just abandon commenting on savage.love